I recently had a conversation with a friend who’s been facing enormous challenges this year with breath-taking courage. I said something about my awe in her ability to cope with all she’s facing, and her response stays with me still.
I don’t want to just cope, she wrote.
I simply know, deeply, that we aren’t here to cope.
And so many spiritual practices (not to mention social constructs, mental health recommendations, etc. etc.) seem to me, to boil down to coping strategies.
I use them.
I want more.
I know there’s more.
And I’m drawn to the stories/people/teachers/poems/whatever that point beyond successful coping, to an all-the-way existence of all-is-well.
Perhaps being in a how-do-I-cope experience is an ideal place to learn.
My heart thinks instantly of all those struggling to stand in Hurricane Sandy’s wake.
And as I think on my friend’s wise words, and on the cry of my heart to find a way into the reality that I glimpse here and there, that wafts past my awareness in unexpected moments, that all is deeply well, always – yes, somehow in and through our darkest hours – my motivation to tend trust is fanned into energizing, heart-warming flame.
I believe small steps, taken over time – whether we’re writing a book, or starting a business, or raising children, or learning to move our bodies again – add up. They transform us.
And learning to do more than “just cope”, learning to trust life DEEPLY, is no exception.
So here we are in a brand new month. Here we are at the outer edge of a brand new holiday season. And I’m ready to use these very weeks – these very weeks that have historically been so full of stress and trying-to-just-make-it-through for me – as a classroom for this very trust I want to learn.
This holiday practice is one conscious move I’m making to nourish trust this season and to keep my sights set there, rather than on the swirl of reasons-to-need-to-just-cope that whirl around me.
And I would love nothing more than your company in this practice and in the bigger picture of this more-than-just-coping path. Join me?