December 19, 2011
Whether you celebrate Solstice, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or nothing at all this month, I wish you well.
I wish you healing.
I wish your fears turn toward trust.
I wish you know yourself – without changing one blessed thing – dear and loved.
And that you have some sense, whether as a whisper in your heart or a sign across the sky, that your life matters, and that all you’ve experienced so far hasn’t been for naught.
This song, from Renee and Jeremy’s album C’mon, has been on repeat over here lots this year as I’ve thought about all of you and my deepest wishes for the work I do here. (Renee and Jeremy do some wonderful work. I hope you’ll consider supporting it!)
And as a year-end gift, realizing holiday gatherings are imminent for many of you, I’m offering my ebook, Unspiking the Holiday Punch, at half price from now through Friday. Just use the coupon code wishingwell at check-out to have the discount applied.
I’ll be back next week with some year-end thoughts and look so forward to all the new year holds!
All my love to you,
December 11, 2011
Quick check-in tonight to say four things:
1. Thanks so much to all of you who have purchased Unspiking the Holiday Punch and for your positive feedback on it! (If you haven’t had a chance, you can check it out here.) I hope your coming weeks are filled with much more ease and self-kindness because of it!
2. I was honored to be hosted by Andrea Scher and Marianne Elliott this week (my article at Superhero Journal is here, and the one at Zen Peacekeeper is here). If you haven’t met these women already, I hope you’ll check out their sites. Both are trust tenders through and through, and strike a remarkable balance between sharing honestly about their own fears and challenges and doing so in ways that invite you into the frame, to explore your own life more honestly and find threads of hope and trust there, too.
3. If you’re new to this site, my warmest welcome! I’m actively planning for ways to make this space a fuller reflection of the community that gathers here, but in the meantime, here are a few ways you might wish to connect and/or understand what happens here better:
- This page is list of topics that have been given extensive attention here. Click on any of them to be taken to an annotated page of the articles written on that topic. I’m currently considering reinstating monthly topics and welcome any opinions any of you have to give on that.
- If you haven’t already signed up for Trust Notes (in the side bar), those are my weekly notes meant to connect more personally with readers than often happens on the blog. I send out short reflections, meditations, and sometimes downloadable sketches all aimed at nourishing trust. As part of that sign-up, you receive a free ebook that’s all about tending trust while spending time online. You can read more about that book here.
- Finally, you can find Trust Tending on Facebook here and on Twitter here.
4. This last point has nothing to do with selling anything or signing up for anything and everything to do with love. I’m feeling the hush that’s coming over the internet as people turn toward physical responsibilities during this holiday season. I’m feeling the restlessness, too, and some of the growing angst people are feeling around lots and lots of things (family time, gift buying, trip planning, financial worry).
And I feel so much love for all of us as we go about our business of being human through this time. It can be really, really hard! So I want you to know that as I meditate each morning (don’t be scandalized; I’m talking 10-15 minutes here), I’m picturing all of you surrounded by kindness and gentleness and peace – things that can feel absent in the hustle of traffic and to-do’s, not to mention all the feelings getting evoked at this time of year.
I don’t know what effect this practice has on your experience. But I hope at the very least it’s a comfort to know that someone is thinking of you daily, holding you in love.
Unspiking the Holiday Punch: An illustrated ebook
December 7, 2011
For the last several weeks I’ve been thinking lots about holidays, and particularly the challenges most of us face as we gather with and relate with extended family. As with the challenges of parenting, I feel a collective hush when it comes to admitting openly that a) we love our families and b) it’s often hard to be with them. That the two aren’t mutually exclusive is a sign I’d like to wear around my neck. An idea that has the same effect on me as a wonderfully deep exhale.
One of the lessons I’ve learned the hard way is that challenging family time is made far worse when we don’t or can’t treat our own selves kindly. When, because of our own self-critical thoughts, shame, or impatience, we aren’t safe for us to be around, it’s difficult to nurture safe relationships with others. Fear and insecurity get bounced back and forth between everyone until no one knows where they started or how they can hope to end.
I’m delighted to offer you my heart-felt effort to help both things calm down. It’s an ebook for purchase called Unspiking the Holiday Punch: A Trust Tending guide to self-kindness before, during, and after extended family time.
I wrote it with the hope of sharing some of the tools I’ve collected over the last many years for loving myself and my family with more courage, more strength, and more ease than I naturally knew.
I hope you’ll come see! :)