Comments on: Wading through books in a field not my own

by: atticus

Wed, 21 Mar 2007 12:37:59 +0000

julianne, i have read Every Woman’s Battle, and it is an honest look at women’s temptation to look outward and as you say, our longing for that sentimental stuff/soulful intimacy. However, it said a few things that bothered me. it implied that any misconduct on the part of a man, is to be construed as prob the woman’s fault. i certainly agree there is much we can do to guard our boundary, but as my therapist told me, we cannot guard others’ boundaries. Men are in charge of theirs.

by: Kristin

Mon, 19 Mar 2007 19:18:55 +0000

Thank you Atticus and Julianne! I’ll look into these.

by: julianne

Mon, 19 Mar 2007 19:09:01 +0000

These you may already know, but for the sake of others reading this here are a few. Note they are very religio-centric:

1. Mike Mason’s _The Mystery of Marriage_ (cheesy title, poetic and insighful writing)
2. Leon Kass’s _The Beginning of Wisdom_ (at least the beginning applies, referring to the book of Genesis)
3. John Paul II’s _The Theology of the Body_ (some amazing stuff in here in my opnion)

additionally I have been reading bits of a book called _Every Woman’s Battle_. I would be curious if others have read this and what they think about it. It is essentially a tale of how women’s sexuality may look different than men’s, insofar as women’s sexuality is so often about the heart, sentiments, affections, as opposed to physical attraction. I find this interesting at least to consider.

by: atticus

Sun, 18 Mar 2007 02:51:55 +0000

well, i have 3 books to recommend to you, altho they may seem strange, not exactly, directly about sexuality …. the 1st: Sex in the Forbidden Zone, by Paul Rutter, it is out of print, but can be found (used and semi-reasonable) on Amazon. It is about the draw of sex in power-imbalanced relationships, but it gets into men’s and women’s fantasies about this…certainly it keeps it in perspective, as being a growing problem, this abuse of power. It is timeless and i wish everyone would read it, so for the life of me i do not know why it is out of print.
2nd: Paulo Coehlo’s: 11 minutes. Prostitution, love, intimacy. Ok, i know fiction is not what you had in mind. 3rd: just for fun, Sex in America, the most recent study of people’s sexual habits, and trends in U.S. now, prob out of date.
I guess i need some updated books, yikes! but i love these.